Likewise, we had to have our sixty or so gallons of milk, in six to ten gallon cans, down at the depot for the milk truck to pick them up by 9.30 am.
|10 gall milk can|
|10 gall milk can|
|Image Source Indian & Aus flags|
|Source Camel Corps|
|Yes, this attractive!|
|Top: 'Normal' pegs. 'New' model below|
Bruce Feiler author of “The Council of Dads: A Story of Family, Friendship and Learning How to Live”, recently shared an excerpt of his book in The New York Times. Bruce had bone cancer; he also had 3-year-old twins, a working wife, nine months of chemotherapy and 15 hours of reconstructive surgery to deal with. When someone asked his advice on how to handle a mutual friend's brain tumour, he came up with a list of things not to say to someone battling a dire health situation:
1. “What can I do to help?” (Don't ask, be proactive).
2. “My thoughts and prayers are with you” (A tired cliché)
3. “Did you try that mango colonic I recommended?” (Leave treatment advice to the doctors)
4. “Everything will be OK.” (You don't know that)
5. “How are we today?” (Sick people aren't mentally diminished infants)
6. “You look great.” (Don't focus on externals).
On this last point, one of my friends had stomach cancer when she was younger and lost a lot of weight during treatment. She works in fashion and I vividly recall how colleagues would say, “You look fantastic”. Even when they knew why she was so thin. Maybe they thought it would cheer her up. It simply made her upset.
Meanwhile, Bruce Feiler's list of things you should say includes:
1. “No need to write back” (Keeping up with correspondence can be overwhelming)
2. “I should be going now” (Short visits are best)
3. “Would you like some gossip?” (Distraction is helpful)
4. “I love you” or “I'm sorry you have to go through this” (Honest expression of emotions are a powerful gift).
I sent his article to several girlfriends at various stages of their health battles - some in the middle, others out the other side - and they agreed with every point.
|Full-sized cream separator|
The second recipient of the Denis Wright Scholarship for Underprivileged Girls through UCEP (in Bangladesh). Like the first recipient, she also wants to be a nurses' aide. She is the youngest of 8 children and lives with her sister in a tin shed. Her parents are dead. She works the longest hours of all the girls presented and seems to have it the roughest....
Sometimes it's wise just to include something entirely without comment. Make of it what you will!I now look at this and wonder if I was giving the impression that I was mocking, or jeering at this period of Japanese society and history or at Sei Shonagon.
|Part of the front hedge|
|Why this illustration? Read on.|
|Had Among the Wild Tribes of the Afghan Frontier been read widely in modern times, I suspect Afghanistan would have been left alone (as it should have been, always!)|