It's funny how a little article – and a good one as far as it goes – that's called "What to Tell a Friend Who Has Cancer" is actually about five things not to say. Five, well put, so please go there and see what they are. I've referred to a couple already and don't want to rehash more than necessary.
Just two quick points on her Points 4 and 5 and I'm done.
No 4. Don't cite research you've read online.
This one I don't agree with. To reject everything out of hand is the height of arrogance. I've never minded people pointing me to articles and giving me the chance to consider them, but in many cases the contents simply do not fit my case, even if they seem to make sense in general. Often it's like suggesting how the average Australian should dress.
No 5. Don't suggest new ways to treat the cancer.
I agree, unless you really, really know what you're talking about. The drugs I am on have been finely balanced over a period of thirty months. I've often been given the suggestion to have massive doses of some vitamin or supplement or food type. To do this could hasten my death. But, let me add, I do love fresh asparagus.
Find one view and another pops up in opposition. Look e.g., at this as a counter to conventional views. http://suite101.com/article/health-myths-not-superfoods-a33455 Do I know who's right? No. Do you? How? Do you know how it would affect the balance of my prescribed drugs? You suggest these as an alternative to my current treatment? Hmmm.
So that leaves me with just one other thing I want to tackle, from the 14 mentioned in the other article.
The God part of it.
I tried explaining some Eastern religious concepts in various blog bits such as on Taoism [or Daoism if you prefer] Making sense using Eastern logic and Illusion, truth and reality (Part 1)